When to Let Them Fail

When to Let Them Fail

I can see the scene in my memory as though I am still staring out the window. My then 8-year old son was waiting for the school bus in a torrential downpour. With a bit of guilt, I thought to myself, “He can handle waiting in the rain - no big deal, he needs to develop some grit,” Of course I was watching from a dry bedroom window. He crossed the street to the bus and a paper bag he was carrying ripped open, dumping the contents in the middle of the wet road. Without thinking I ran out and helped him scoop everything up, kissed him quickly, and sent him on his way. But of course, then I was soaked, my feet were freezing, and I felt a bit odd standing in my bathrobe in the middle of the street of my brand new neighborhood. That said, I helped my little boy. But I thought, should I have let him figure it out on his own and develop some resourcefulness?

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The Learning is in the Struggle

The Learning is in the Struggle

I wanted to stand up and applaud when the principal of my daughter’s school encouraged the parents to let the kids struggle with their work. At the parent evening he acknowledged that it’s tempting to step in and help, but that the true learning comes from the struggle. When our kids struggle they sometimes succeed and they sometimes fail.

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