When to Let Them Fail

When to Let Them Fail

I can see the scene in my memory as though I am still staring out the window. My then 8-year old son was waiting for the school bus in a torrential downpour. With a bit of guilt, I thought to myself, “He can handle waiting in the rain - no big deal, he needs to develop some grit,” Of course I was watching from a dry bedroom window. He crossed the street to the bus and a paper bag he was carrying ripped open, dumping the contents in the middle of the wet road. Without thinking I ran out and helped him scoop everything up, kissed him quickly, and sent him on his way. But of course, then I was soaked, my feet were freezing, and I felt a bit odd standing in my bathrobe in the middle of the street of my brand new neighborhood. That said, I helped my little boy. But I thought, should I have let him figure it out on his own and develop some resourcefulness?

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Practicing What I Preach

Practicing What I Preach

I was out for a run in our new neighborhood and saw a pond that was frozen over. It appeared it had been skated on and I was excited by the possibility of having a recreational ice skating park so close to the house that the kids could go to. I shared this discovery with my daughter when she came home from school before I had the chance to weigh out the possible dangers:

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There is no "I" in Parent

There is no "I" in Parent

So much of parenting takes place in the moment and is focused, quite understandably, on the children. I know in my house our morning and evening routines are based on the children’s schedules and much of our social calendar is scheduled around the kids’ engagements. Menu choices for dinner, movies to watch, and games to play are all based, at least in part, on our children’s tastes, moods, and whims. Often I feel that I get lost in the rush.

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